When Mother’s Day Hurts

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When Mother’s Day Hurts

This Mother’s Day may come as yet another reminder to women everywhere that they don’t have something they desire. Another year of miscarriages, infertility, or even waiting for a child through the adoption process. This could also include the single woman who longs deeply for marriage. Whatever the unfulfilled desire, it tugs at your heart and plagues your mind.

So, what are we to do when we are faced with another disappointing year? It would be easy for me to simply tell you to trust the Lord. You should. Or that you ought to rejoice with those who rejoice. This, too, is true. But I think the Lord wants to comfort you today as you wait or mourn your loss. We most definitely want to be contented women, and yet the Lord also offers himself and says, I have been tempted in every way but without sin, come to my thrown of grace and receive mercy in your time of need.

This we know for sure: Christ loves you. He really does sympathize with you. You can read it throughout God’s word. In His Word and specifically in Hebrews 4:15-16, He is reminding you that he isn’t far-off. He has entered into the ugly and hard places that you see your heart going as you struggle with worry or anxiety or fear or anger. He knows it. He knows your temptation. Jesus reminds you that he walked this earth perfectly for you. And in your weakness he invites you to draw near to him. He wants to comfort you and uphold you with his righteous right hand. Come to him, weary friend, and receive grace and peace and rest. This is your time of need. Mother’s Day is your time of need, and he does not turn away from you during your time of need; he wants you to find grace to help.

Friend, I pray that you would receive his good grace today. As you look to Mother’s Day, know that he has you in mind and intercedes even now on your behalf.  “The LORD is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit” (Psalm 34:18).

“For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but one who in every respect has been tempted as we are, yet without sin. Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need” (Hebrews 4:15-16).


Trillia Newbell
Trillia Newbell
TRILLIA NEWBELL is the author of United: Captured by God’s Vision for Diversity (Moody Publishers, 2014) and Fear and Faith (Moody, 2015). Her writings on issues of faith, family, and diversity have been published in the Knoxville News-Sentinel, Desiring God, Christianity Today, Relevant Magazine, The Gospel Coalition, and more. She currently is the consultant on Women’s Initiatives for the Ethics and Religious Liberty Commission for the Southern Baptist Convention. Along with writing, she is pursuing her M.A. in biblical counseling from Southern Theological Seminary. Trillia is married to her best friend, Thern, they reside with their two children near Nashville, TN.

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